Why Should Spouses be Good to Each Other?

A couple of days ago, I wrote about a right (Biblical) relationship between a husband and wife. How submission and surrender can be freeing and can help the “two become one flesh” (Mark 10:8). I trust that you went to listen to Pastor Barbie’s sermon, where she laid out a beautiful picture of how this can look. A picture filled with grace and freedom, not condemnation and legalism.

So now the question follows: Why?

Why should a wife an wife pursue a right relationship with each other? What’s the point? Here are five reasons, just off the top of my head. Perhaps you have some more – share those in the comments section below.

1. It’s in the Bible (Ephesians 5:21-33) – For a follower of Jesus of Nazareth, this alone should be a good reason.
2. A right relationship between husband and wife improves their marriage.
3. When things are right at home, we are free to minister to others.
4. The relationship between a husband and a wife reflect on the nature of God (refer again to Ephesians 5:21-33).
5. We are better role models for our children – when we model a good relationship, we give our children a chance to have a marriage relationship that is as good as (or better than) our own.

Perhaps you know of some reasons as well. Perhaps you have a story of how your parents’ relationship has affected your life. You should share those in the comments section below. I’d love to hear your stories.

I’ll close with the chorus from “Daughters” by John Mayer. Fathers and mothers, be good to your daughters (and sons). Treat them well. Raise them well. And model a Biblical marriage relationship.

Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

John Mayer “Daughters”
Heavier Things Sony 2003