Don’t you hate it when you feel disconnected from your spouse? When it just feels like there’s a distance between the two of you – whether emotionally, geographically, or spiritually. Fortunately, you can learn how to reconnect with your spouse. And it’s not that hard.
Sure, we’ve all been there. Well, those of us who have been married more than a few weeks have been there. Those times when conversation is difficult. Or when it feels like you’re missing each other. When there have been misunderstandings. Continue reading →
This will be a quick one because it’s just a reminder of what you already know. But, if you’re like me, sometimes you need a reminder.
“Always do the most important stuff first.”
In terms of ordering our lives, there will almost always be more to do than time to do it. And more options than our ability to choose, so being able to prioritize is critical.
When I was growing up, that usually meant that I had to finish my Algebra homework before I could watch TV. When I was in college it meant that I needed to finish my homework before I could go play pool or watch TV (I didn’t do as well with that sometimes). And now it means that I always try to put what’s most important in the first part of my day.
Last week I told you that it was OK for you to unplug. However, that’s not going far enough. You need to unplug.
Of course, saying it is the easy part, actually unplugging is difficult. It’s especially difficult if you’re afraid you’re going to miss something important. However, especially in terms of your electronic interactions, you can use technology to collect stuff that’s important while you’re unplugged. Then, when you plug back in, your important stuff is, in the words of Richard Marx, “right [there] waiting for you.” (yeah, I’m that old)
Do you feel like you’re missing out if you ever unplug? Like you might miss one important status update or offend a friend by missing a tweet? As though you’re a bad citizen and friend if you’re a few hours (or a couple of days) late to find out that a friend is engaged?
Well, if so, here’s your free pass. Use it wisely.
It’s a Place
Social media is a virtual space – a place or a destination. I think of it like going to church or to Starbucks. While you’re there, you can interact with people and do stuff together. And, unless you’re a community life director, you don’t need to worry about it while you’re gone. Continue reading →
If your efforts to network look like this, you might have a problem.
In this view of networking, people and relationships are utilitarian. They’re used and not honored. While you might achieve a level of success using this method, it dehumanizes, devalues, and dishonors people.
I want to hear what you have to say about influence.
What is Influence
It seems like many people equate influence with popularity – and popularity can certainly be part of influence. Online we use tools such as Klout and PeerIndex to measure influence (if it’s really influence at all). And we use social media channels such as Facebook and Twitter to spread our message.
But I question whether that’s more influential than just sitting down to have coffee with somebody. After all, sitting across the table with your friends or someone who’s asking for advice, looking them in the eye, and holding them accountable for their actions (and allowing them to do the same) is a lot different from scheduling quotes from Mark Twain, Ghandi, and the Bible.
This is for real
In fact, just today I was sitting down with a friend to discuss business strategy. Sure, we could have handled it by email (and we did email before and after our lunch). We could have tweeted back and forth. But there was a certain immediacy and intimacy in the moment. There was a certain earthiness and power in being together.
Today’s post is a special edition “Follow Friday Extravaganza” requested by Aaron.
I follow every one of these blogs and tweeters, and, though I may not always agree with everything that’s written or how it’s presented, they always encourage, challenge, and inspire me. I think they’ll do the same for you.
There are LOTS of great blogs and tweeters out there. If you’ve found other killer blogs or tweeters, why not leave a recommendation in the comments?
The journey to success is a road of sequential failure separated by intermittent success and multiple attempts. That’s OK. If we’re not attempting and failing, we’re not stretching and growing. There may be seasons of success and seasons of failure. That’s OK, too. Everything has its season (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8).
So, looking back over your week,
Are you proud of this week?
How well did you live by your priorities?
Did you invest your life in others?
What one thing could have been better?
What one thing are you proud of?
What would you like to do differently?
What will you do differently?
If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.”- Antoine de Sainte-Exupery (1900-1944); aviator, writer (via Mark Entzminger)
I’m reminding myself: What I do every day matters more than what I do once in a while. – @gretchenrubin
If you’re a leader, look to implement the best idea…not just the one that’s yours. – @benreed
Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there. —Will Rogers (via @bufferapp)
In truth, people can generally make time for what they choose to do; it is not really the time but the will that is lacking. Sir John Lubbock (via @adamgrave1)
One of the worst things you can do for your self-image and for your relationships is to phone it in. It’ll just suck the life and passion out of you and tells others that you don’t care about them. It can permanently damage your relationships and your reputation.
I don’t want to phone it in as a blogger, as a husband and father, as a spiritual leader, or as a business person. I want to give my very best all the time because you deserve the best. So I have to be present (not distracted) when I’m with people, deliver on my promises, and be intentional about investing my life in those around me.
I’m sure that you’re sometimes in a similar situation. Think about this week – were there some times that you were just phoning it in? How about times when you were giving your all but people thought you were phoning it in because you didn’t manage their expectations?
I think you’ll find some great wisdom in the articles this week that will help you on your path to delivering your best and letting people know just that. But first, some most excellent quotes from my most excellent friends on Twitter and Facebook.