Posts Tagged ‘discipline’

Tough Times – What are you doing?

January 17th, 2009

It’s no secret that we’re living in tough financial times (at least by our standards). Many of us are stretched beyond our now-shrinking means. We’re having to do things differently than we did in the past.

I’d like to know what you’re doing to make it through these times. Do you have a plan? If so, what is it?

We often showcase difficult times as our “defining moments”. To be sure, they can be just that, the moments that change and define who we are as much as they can also simply be the moments that show who we have always been – the way we’ve always behaved and made decisions.

Especially in this nation, though, I think we have a “one-time hero” mentality. When something difficult comes along and we do the right thing – often for the first and last time – we try to define ourselves based on that one experience. Now I’m not saying that if you’re in a tough spot you shouldn’t do the right thing but I would challenge us to make a lasting lifestyle change.

We need not be a nation of “financial yo-yo dieters”, bingeing on the financial candy of more, newer, and better until our financial health warrants a change and then trimming down using until we feel better about ourselves, only to repeat the process again and again. And we especially need to actually do the work of getting out of this. We should not plan on the financial liposuction of personal bailouts, bankruptcies, and winning the lottery.

Remember that ultimately, whether we pay for our mistakes or not, somebody does.

We have to ask ourselves whether we will honor our commitments even though they are difficult. We have to reevaluate our priorities. We have to deal with stress. King David is quoted as having said “… [He] honors those who fear the Lord; He who swears to his own hurt and does not change….”

To do this requires that we make some hard choices and do a few things:

  1. Swallow our pride and admit that we have a problem
  2. Ask God for help
  3. Decide what is important
  4. Find or develop a plan
  5. Actually do what we have planned

A few years ago, I found myself unsure of why I never seemed to have money and I decided that it was a problem. So I prayed about it and felt like God had defined a time when I should start working on it. In preparation, I started tracking what I was spending and where, how much I owed, and so forth.

I was appalled that I had spent hundreds of dollars over the previous year on bank fees, late charges, and interest. I began to see that I could easily save a few hundred dollars a year simply by keeping track of and paying bills on time. And that I could use that money to pay off credit card debt – money I had spent mostly on things I no longer had. In addition to that, I had to define what things I thought were most important and take care of those first. For me, it was like this (roughly in order) tithes, offerings, housing, food (groceries, not restaurants), transportation, bills I owed, everything else.

So for the next few months, I handled my money in this way. I didn’t cut out all of the fun and restaurants, I simply curtailed it. And every time I had “extra” money, I put it to paying off bills.

About 2 months into this I was amazed. It was as if God was blessing my efforts – my bills were being paid off more quickly than I had expected even though I seldom felt constrained by my financial situation. Perhaps I had simply stepped into God’s blessing by hearing from him, creating a plan, and following through.

Over the following 3 months, I was able to pay off all of my credit card debt, pay off some bills, build savings, and buy a house. While I’m not saying that this is God’s plan for you, it is what he did for me when I heard from him, created a plan, and followed through.

So, back to my question to you.

How are you (as an individual or family) working through this difficult time?

  • Where is your trust?
  • Are you keeping your commitments?
  • Have you developed a plan to work through this?
  • Have you prioritized what gets taken care of?
  • If so, what are your priorities?
  • Are you following through?

Seriously, I’m interested to know how you’re working through this. What you’re doing. Maybe I (or somebody else) can learn from what you’re doing.

Feeding Your Soul

July 30th, 2008

Yesterday I wrote about finding our way back when we’ve found ourselves further from where we want to be. Or further from where God wants us to be. Today we look at what I’m planning to do because I’m not where I want to be and I’m hungry for more of God.

Are you hungry for more?

Several years ago, as I was teaching a Sunday School class for Young Adults, we went through Feeding Your Soul: A Quiet Time Handbook by Jean Fleming. As you study church history, you will find many different “disciplines” of private devotions. From Christian mediatation to Lectio Divina there are common themes:

  • Quieting yourself
  • Listening to God
  • Talking to God
  • Living the word

In her book, Jean laid out a very simple process for personal devotional time, including both prayer and time in the Bible. And when I’ve followed her format, God has spoken to me and drawn me towards himself.

Recently, I have found myself stretched and my personal time with God has decreased. I remember the way things used to be. I am repenting by both confessing that I am not where God would have me be and also by attempting to change my direction. And I am returning to the things I used to do.

Jean’s “framework” for private devotions in Feeding Your Soul: A Quiet Time Handbook included four simple steps. I’d like to lay them out for you here.

  • Read – Choose a section of scripture, note it in a journal, and read it. I usually choose a very small section (one to ten verses). And I usually use this process to work through an entire book.
  • Report – In your journal (or notebook), summarize what you’ve read. This can be bullet points or simply rewording what you’ve read. The point is to work through the text in such a way that you can understand it and explain what you’ve read.
  • Reflect – Meditate on what you’ve read. Record anything that God reveals to you in your journal. Or write down any questions that arise as you contemplate the text.
  • Respond – Write out a prayer response to God. Ask him the questions you don’t know how to answer. Thank him for what he’s revealed to you. Ask him to show you opportunities to act on what he’s shown you.

If you’re looking for a way to go deeper in your private time with God, I can wholeheartedly recommend Feeding Your Soul: A Quiet Time Handbook. I’m starting to do it again because I need to go deeper with my relationship with God.

How do you spend time with God daily? (no…really…I want to know) How do you spend time with God daily?