The Action Defecit

In this culture of hyper-connectivity and people-pleasing, it’s easy to find ourselves with more commitments than we are able to fulfill. It’s easy to discover that our task lists are growing more quickly than our abilities to complete or even delegate tasks. That is an Action Deficit.

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photo credit: Walt Stoneburner on Flickr

How to handle an Action Deficit

An action deficit, like a cash flow deficit, can be handled multiple ways. We can:

  1. Ignore the problem and hope it goes away (not smart)
  2. Allow the loudest priorities to control our actions
  3. Develop and carry out a plan that will lead to success

Obviously, the first plan – ignoring things – is simply unwise. But so often we actually do allow the priorities of others and their ability to be the loudest control what gets our attention. I know what both of these are like because I constantly fight the temptation to approach my own overwhelm in those ways.

There is a better way

Begin with the end in mind
Stephen Covey

The better way, though, is to be crystal clear on what is most important. In every context. Be crystal clear on what is most important in your family. Be crystal clear on what is most important in your business or to the company you work for. Be crystal clear on what is most important in your department. And your church. And in your relationships. And in your health.

OK, I get it.

Then, develop a plan to reorganize your activities put your best time towards the things that are the most important. I can’t tell you exactly what that will look like because I don’t know your specific situation. But I can tell you that knowing what is most important will help.

Finally, put the plan into action. Reorganize your schedule (I get up at 5AM most days to pray, read the Bible, and write in a journal – and I’m not a morning person). Have some frank discussions if necessary. And schedule a weekly check-in with yourself or an accountability partner to keep yourself on track.

That sounds easy

Well, yes, it does sound easy. But it’s not easy, it’s simple and straightforward but not easy. Or at least it wasn’t easy for me, and it’s still a struggle from time to time. I come back to these principles weekly, sometimes daily and wrestle them back into place. I still struggle.

Take the first step first

So, since it’s not easy, just take the first step. Then take the second.

Do you know where you are in this? Take a deep assessment of where you are and how you’re spending your time (track your time if you need to) and then compare that with what’s most important to you, your boss and customers, your family, and so on. If you like what you see, keep going. If not, take the next steps.

  • Get clear on your priorities
  • Create a plan to spend your best time on those priorities
  • Arrange your schedule and commitments
  • Check in often

The question

Can you share the story of a time when you successfully changed how you were spending your time to do what was the most important? If so, what did you do and how did you do it?

Photo credit: Walt Stoneburner

3 Questions to Simplify Leadership

When things get crazy, we need a place of simplicity where we can regain our centers. Andy Stanley shared his “simple place” at the Chick-fil-A Leadercast in the form of three questions that help him when things get crazy.

Leadership Made Simple

  1. What are we doing?
  2. Why are we doing in?
  3. Where do I fit in?

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If his three questions don’t work for you, I’d urge you to spend some time finding the place of simplicity where you can center yourself.

He said he wrote his out by hand out on a 3 x 5 card. If you want to print out the picture above and hang it on your wall, go for it. If you want to write it out by hand on a 3 x 5 card (or 5 x 8 if you’re feeling crazy), feel free. But write it down.

Why write it down?

I’m glad you asked. Because it’s precisely when we’re most likely to need to remember that we’re likely to forget. It’s when life is complex that it’s hard to find the place of simplicity.

But if it’s written down, you can at least find it if you go looking for it.

 

Why Your Life Plan Isn’t Good Enough.

Do you have a life plan? If not, I really think you need one. It’s a document that will help you prioritize decisions and make choices so that you end up where you want to be.

Failing to have a life plan is kind of like heading off into life with no idea where you end up. Sure, there will always be detours. But it’s important to have an itinerary if you actually intend to find yourself in a particular destination.

(Learn more about creating a life plan here and here.)

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But even if you have a life plan, there’s a really good chance it’s not good enough. I have one and I’m not satisfied with it. It’s not good enough. It’s not compelling enough.

Do you know why?

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It’s Friday!

For some, Friday signals the end of the dreaded work week and the beginning of the cherished weekend. Like a regularly scheduled retirement, the weekend is the goal. Life only happens after work is done.

But not for us. We’re a different breed. We see that work has value and that work, enjoyment, family, and recreation can coexist. We don’t need to escape. We just need to experience life – one day, one moment at a time.

No, it’s not all fun and games. But our lives are meaningful and have value.

We enjoy life, don’t we?

How do you plan to live a meaningful life this weekend?

From Failure to Success in 3 Steps

It’s inevitable. Sometimes we fail. And while we’d prefer to simply avoid failure, it’s impossible to get through life without failing at something. So it’s important to know how recover from failure.

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A few days ago I wrote about 5 warning signs that failure might be around the corner but I don’t think that gives you everything you need to know. In fact I bet that when you were reading it you thought something like “Yeah, Bryan, that’s great. But what do I do if I’ve already failed.”

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Is Failure Around the Corner? 5 Warning Signs

I don’t know about you but I’m not really fond of failure. I’ve had plenty of experience with failure and, though it can teach me things I need to learn, it’s still pretty low on my list of things I’d like to do. So, over the years I’ve noticed when I’m likely to fail and I’ve tried to structure my life so I can avoid it as much as possible.

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Now, it’s not possible to completely avoid failure. In fact, it’s probably not even desirable to completely avoid failure because we can learn so much from it. But I also think it’s foolish if we only look to our own failures for learning.

Doesn’t it seem smarter to learn from the failures of others when we can?

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How to Reconnect With Your Spouse

Don’t you hate it when you feel disconnected from your spouse? When it just feels like there’s a distance between the two of you – whether emotionally, geographically, or spiritually. Fortunately, you can learn how to reconnect with your spouse. And it’s not that hard.

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Sure, we’ve all been there. Well, those of us who have been married more than a few weeks have been there. Those times when conversation is difficult. Or when it feels like you’re missing each other. When there have been misunderstandings.
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Could Doing This Change Your Life?

Would you believe me if I told you that one change could transform the quality of your life? That if you do what I’m about to tell you it will increase your chances of success, make you happier, help you make friends and may even help you live a longer, healthier life? That other people might want to be around you and your boss (or clients) might trust you more?

No, I’m not going to ask you to send me three easy payments of $99.95. I’m going to give it to you for free and if it works for you, just tell everybody you know to do the same. Seriously, I don’t want anything out of this except for your life to be better.
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Are YOU Trying to Escape Your Life?

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It’s Friday afternoon. By now, many people are off work and headed to wherever they go. But, before you unplug (and I hope you do unplug), take a minute to answer this question:

Have YOU been hanging on for the weekend?

In other words, is your weekly life so bad that you live for the escape of the weekend? Or are you able to live an integrated life where you’re fully engaged in your work and your family, your vocation and your avocations?

gift box by kens oven Are YOU Trying to Escape Your Life?Sure, it’s great to look forward to things. I look forward to holidays and vacations. I want to unplug and to spend some quality time with my family. I’ve been known to watch a movie or head out to the park. We need to recharge.

And, no, my life is not all fun and games. Or puppies and rainbows. But it’s a good life and life – this life – is God‘s gift. A precious and valuable gift. A treasure.

So I’m not trying to escape my life. I’m trying to live it.

Are you trying to escape your life?

If so, what are you going to do about it?

Photo credit: Ken’s Oven on Flickr (Creative Commons License)

 Are YOU Trying to Escape Your Life?